The arrival of a new year presents a moment to set goals and reconsider what’s possible. As the people we featured in the Times series It’s Never Too Late prove, there is no one way — and no deadline — when it comes to pursuing your dreams. We gathered some of their best words of wisdom. Let their lived experience and encouraging tips (Dream big! Don’t let fear stand in your way! Do something new!) provide you with a dash of inspiration as you set your 2022 resolutions.
Credit…Aubrey Trinnaman for The New York TimesYou first have to figure out why you think you can’t do something and ask yourself if that’s a valid point. Look, there’s somebody telling you every step of your life what to eat, what to wear, that you can’t sleep without this drug, and it’s all nonsense. You can decide for yourself what you think you’re capable of. It’s just so sad when people say, oh, I’m 50, I can’t … fill in the blank. Try it anyway! Who cares! You might be surprised.
Dierdre Wolownick, who climbed El Capitan for the first time at age 66.
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Credit…Leslie Ryann McKellar for The New York TimesDon’t be afraid of embarrassment or opening yourself up to criticism. You have to be OK with not having mastery over something. And don’t let fear stand in your way. It will get less scary every time you try.
Rose Young, who learned how to ride horseback at age 63.
Credit…Prarthna Singh for The New York TimesDream a big dream, then figure out what all the little incremental steps are to get there, and hit those steps one by one. There are always obstacles. Loved ones can be an obstacle, money can be an obstacle. It’s not easy. There’s lots of sacrifice involved, but you can dream a big dream and make it come true.
Richard Klein, who moved to Mumbai to become a Bollywood actor in his 40s.
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Credit…Nate Palmer for The New York TimesDo something new that you normally wouldn’t do, or something you hadn’t planned on doing, or something you’re passionate about. Take an acting class or a cooking class, or go to a museum. These things let you connect to other people you might not have met ordinarily. It can make your life more lively. Pick up the phone. Send an email. Think of something you want to do and then ask someone if they want to do it with you. Don’t be afraid to let things happen.
Phyllis Raphael, who found new love in her 80s.
Credit…Evan Jenkins for The New York TimesBe as open as you can be. Be as honest as you can be about who you are. Because ultimately, love overwhelms.
Vica Steel, who enrolled in seminary to become a Lutheran pastor in her 50s.
